We are in the midst of engagement season! Statistically, most proposals happen between Thanksgiving and Valentine's Day, with a huge spike between Christmas and New Year's Eve. If you think your special someone might be popping the question soon, here is a look at the reality of the situation.
- It's not (usually) going to happen the way you think it will. You may have a vision influenced by your favorite movie or book - the perfect dress, the perfect hair, the perfect location, just the right music playing in the background, a good manicure... but guess what? Guys don't typically think like that. It might happen when you have no makeup on, in your jammies, or out walking the dog. But however your sweetie proposes, it's going to be special and memorable, because it's a story uniquely yours.
- He'll be super-nervous. In movies and tv shows, guys are usually cool, calm and collected when they propose. But in reality, whatever he has planned will never go the way he imagined it would either. Do you remember all the preparation and craziness when Chandler was going to propose to Monica on Friends?! (I love that episode!)
- You may not love the ring. Unless you've been ring shopping together, your honey is probably not going to nail it 100%. Hopefully he knows enough about your style and personality to get something you don't hate. He spent a lot of time choosing this most-special piece of jewelry, and he thinks it's perfect. So you should too.
- People will ask you when and where you are getting married 5 minutes after he pops the question. And in some families, the "when are you having kids" questions will start too! You don't have to have all the answers right away - in fact, it's best to take some time and just enjoy being engaged!
- Not everyone will be happy for you. Some people will think it's too soon, you're too young, he's not right for you, whatever. But if you know in your heart that now is the right time and he is the right guy, don't worry about their opinions. (Side note: if there are concerns about abusiveness, substance abuse, or other potentially dangerous behavior, you may want to seek the advice of a trained counselor to be sure you know what you are getting into.)
When you do have the ring on your finger, don't forget to give us a call to start planning your one-of-a-kind wedding!