Wedding Facts

Do You Need a Wedding Planner? Would You Remodel Your Home Without a General Contractor?

Today we have a guest post, which I hope you will enjoy! Be sure to check out Christine’s websites, listed at the end of the article.

I don’t get it. Why would you take on a project that can cost you anywhere from $10,000 to, well, as high as you want to go without having a professional by your side?

Here is the thing, would you take on a major home remodeling project without hiring a general contractor? Of course not. I know, you are asking how are those even remotely the same. Let me ask you,

“How are they different?”

  • Both have budgets in at least the 5 figure range. That is a LOT of money.
  • In both instances you want a high degree of personalization. In short, you want YOUR dream to be executed.
  • Both will require a long list of sub-contractors that you have most likely never dealt with before.
  • Both require tight scheduling to make sure everything comes together on time and on budget.
  • Both are going to have glitches and unexpected issues pop up that someone is going to have to deal with.
  • The results of both are going to be with you for a long, long time.

Am I beginning to make some sense here?

All those things listed above are what a wedding planner does.

  • They know which vendors are reliable and match your style.
  • They help you translate your dreams to the people who are going to make them come true.
  • They know all about how your venue works in terms of timing and convenience for load in.
  • It is their job to keep that timeline on track so, for example, the flowers show up after the tables are set up, dinner is served hot and the MC know when to do the first dance.
  • It is their job to keep all those sub-contractors working together on the right plan.
  • They are there to look you right in the eye and say “Yes you can have that, but you are going to have to give up XYZ”
  • They are there to handle those last-minute glitches and issues in a way that you don’t even know they happened.

There is a wealth of information online today on how to plan a wedding, but until you actually do it, you have no idea of everything involved. Seriously, when you look at it in this light, why would you even think of not hiring a wedding planner for one of the days you are going to remember for the rest of your life.

Sure, I could watch HGTV, DIY Network, House Crashers and This Old House until my eyes bleed but one episode of Holmes on Homes or DIY Disaster will cure my ass of thinking I can remodel my kitchen on my own!

By: Christine Boulton
Wedding Dish | Think Like A Bride

Thanks, Christine, for the informative (and oh-so-true) insight!

Why Do We Toss The Bouquet?

Image from foxfotostudios.com

Two of the most exciting events of a wedding reception are the tossing of the bride’s bouquet and her garter. Tradition says that the single girl and guy that catch the bride’s objects will be next in line to be married; but have you ever wondered why this is? What is it about these two items that possess magical marriage powers?

The tradition of tossing the bouquet and garter dates back to the fourteenth century. Any piece of the bride’s attire was considered lucky, so guests were excited to claim their own bit of marriage luck. Some of the single guests would become so eager to have the bouquet that they would rush to the bride and enthusiastically try to grab it from her. To prevent the bride from being attacked by her guests, brides started tossing their bouquet to the crowd.

The tossing of the garter also evolved from trying to protect the bride. Way back when, when the reception was over, guests would accompany the newlyweds to their bedchamber. It was custom that the groom’s friends would try to remove the bride’s garters for good luck. Obviously this caused some discomfort. To avoid being bothered by drunken men, brides started tossing their garters in their direction instead.

 

Why Do Brides Wear White?

Image from btinternet.com

The white wedding gown has been worn for centuries. Egyptian brides wore layers of pleated white linen. In Rome and Greece white was worn because it was the color of celebration. But white wasn’t always an easy fabric to find. It was a difficult color to achieve before bleaching techniques and was very hard to maintain. Wealthy brides then wore white to exhibit their prosperity. So for many generations brides would just wear their best dresses.

On February 10th, 1840, Queen Victoria took weddings took the next level. Victoria’s train was so long it took twelve train-bearers to get her down the aisle, and her cake was said to be three yards around. She made the white wedding gown the dress to emulate, not because she was the first to wear one, but because hers was the first royal wedding to take place after the invention of photography. Brides all across England finally had a wedding dress to imitate after.

The Queen wasn’t necessarily known for her beauty, but was stunning on her wedding day. Her presence convinced the world that every bride can be breath-taking on her day.

History of Bridal Showers

Image from marthastewartweddings.com

Bridal showers are gift-giving parties held for the bride-to-be in anticipation for her big day.

The custom of bridal showers dates back to the 1500’s-1600’s era in Holland. According to popular belief a young Dutch girl from a prominent family fell in love with a good hearted but penniless mill operator. The two decided to marry despite the fact that the girl’s father refused to give her dowry (money, goods, or estate that a women brings forth to the marriage). The community decided to come together and help the couple in need by “showering” them with gifts.

Over the years bridal showers have become a popular tradition that can range from a simple gathering to an elaborate party.

Wedding Guest Etiquette, As Seen on WJXT’s The Morning Show

I had the pleasure of speaking with Nikki Kimbleton on WJXT’s The Morning Show again today – this time, the topic was Wedding Guest Etiquette.  Here are some of the tips we discussed:

Can you wear white to a wedding?
There is no hard and fast rule that says “no,” but it is generally frowned upon. However, the bride will never notice what her guests are wearing!Where do you sit if you are friends with both the bride and groom?
You can sit on either side. We ask our ushers to keep the seating balanced, so sit on whichever side has the fewer guests.

Should you bring a gift to the wedding?
Gifts are never required. However, if you choose to give one, it’s best to send it ahead of time to the bride or groom, or up to one year after the wedding!

Do you have to stick with the registry?
I’m saying, YES! This is one of the biggest pet peeves we hear from brides and grooms. They spend many hours setting up their registry and choosing items for their homes – stick with their wish list.

Is cash better? What is an appropriate amount?
Emily Post says, “Let your affection for the bride and groom be your guide.” In general, think about the amount you would spend on a gift, and give the same as a cash gift.

What if you are invited but your significant other is not?
You should never, under any circumstances, bring an additional (uninvited) guest to a wedding. However, you may want to gently ask the bride or groom to be sure there was not an error.

What is the #1 mistake guests make?
Arriving late!  Plan to be in your seat for the ceremony 15 minutes before the time listed on the invitation. If you do arrive late, wait outside the church until the processional has finished, and then slip in a side door or the balcony.

Check out the interview here! http://www.news4jax.com/video/28810496/index.html