Wedding Facts

Five Popular Wedding Myths

#1 Rain, Rain Don’t go away!:

Rain on your wedding day traditionally means good luck for the couple, representing a fertile crop or future children.

#2 Wearing Pearls:

Traditionally brides who choose to wear pearls the day of their wedding will have a happy, tear free marriage.

#3 Cry me a River:

It is considered good luck for brides to cry during her wedding. It is said that she will have cried all of her tears away and leave nothing left to cry about during the marriage.

#4 Dropping the Ring:

It is said that dropping the wedding ring shakes off evil spirits and therefore brings luck to the bride and groom. A less optimistic view of this myth states that whoever drops the ring will be the first person to die.

#5 Positioning of the Bride and Groom:

Traditionally the bride is suppose to sand to the left of the groom so that his sword arm is free to defend his future wife and fight any man who tries to steal her from the alter.

Image: Laura Novak Photography

Peggy Post: Wedding Etiquette


Heather and I recently attended the Association of Bridal Consultants’ annual conference in Indianapolis.  We met a lot of great people, and attended some very informative classes.  One of the highlights of the conference for me was meeting Peggy Post. That’s right, Peggy Post, the great-granddaughter-in-law of Emily Post – etiquette guru!

I attended two of Peggy’s sessions at the conference, and learned some really interesting things about etiquette and how it changes between cultures and over time.

One thing that really stuck out to me was that the giving of a thank you gift can differ between cultures.  The type of gift, when to give it, when to open it, and the appropriate way to reciprocate the gift can all vary depending on the culture.  For instance, be cautious if giving flowers as a gift.  Different colors or types of flowers have various meanings depending on the culture;  some even symbolizing death.  What I found even more interesting (and not surprising) is that chocolates are the universal thank you.

My favorite part of Peggy’s presentation, (besides her calling wedding coordinators saints) was her showing how the principles of etiquette have changed over time.

In 1922:
A bride-to-be could not accept apparel, a house, or a car from her fiancé.
A wedding in the evening would never take place in New York. A sit-down breakfast reception was the norm.
Southern weddings took place in the evenings (because the weather was typically cooler).

In 1980:
Female guests should never wear white or black to a wedding.
A woman who is re-marrying should never wear white.
A bridal gift registry could only consist of crystal, silver, china, and linen – that’s all!
The bridal party could only consist of men standing with the groom and women standing with the bride.

Now in 2009, we have honor attendants or even pets as participants in the bridal party.  It is acceptable for female guests to wear black; sometimes even the bridesmaids’ dresses are black.  And bridal registries often consist of just about any household item, even camping gear and flat screen TVs.  Not to mention the option of having a honeymoon registry, or requests for charity donations in lieu of gifts.

I also found it interesting that the one rule of etiquette that has not changed in over 80 years is the sending of a hand written thank you note after receiving a gift.

How do you think the rules of etiquette will change over the next 20 years?  Will evites be acceptable as wedding invitations?  Will social or eco-responsibility be more of a rule instead of an option?

Something Borrowed, Something Hot Pink

Hot Pink Flower. Have you always been the kind of girl that has dreamed about a traditional wedding? Maybe you’ve never pictured anything but a modern theme on your wedding day. At either end of the spectrum, it’s yours, and you make it what you want. You should never, at any moment, worry about what your guests think. Your wedding should be about you and your future spouse and who the two of you join together to be.

Let’s take a look at one of the most common wedding phrases…

“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”

Primarily, “something old” represents tradition. This is often a signification of your mom, grandmother, aunt, sister, etc. “Something old” stands for tradition and memories of the past, and traditions that you are continuing to carry on that will possibly be included in your granddaughter’s wedding.

“Something new” is typically the style of the bride. It is what she wants to include in her wedding day that defines more of who she is and her sense of fashion.

A bride can sometimes receive a gift or item from a happily married friend or family member, alas “something borrowed.” This may signify good fortune from one bride to another.

As far as “something blue” goes, the color and weddings have gone hand in hand for centuries. Brides in ancient Rome wore blue to symbolize many noble traits, while purity has been associated with the color because of Christianity’s dressing the Virgin Mary in the color.

Whatever the theme, whatever the colors, whatever the traditions or lack thereof, your wedding is yours. Maybe your something blue should be something hot pink!

(pink flower photo courtesy of Tibby Dozier Steedly)

Haitian Wedding Customs

While the Haitians are starting to adopt different wedding customs, the majority of people in the countryside are still holding on to their ancient wedding tradition.

Everything is different from the preparation to the end. There is no formal invitation, everybody from church members to the community are invited by word of mouth. The wedding day starts with people showering the streets where the bride will walk to the church accompanied with her many bridesmaids. The ceremony itself can last up to 3 hours listening to all the church choirs singing and the pastor’s sermon can last forever.

For the reception, most of the time, tables are arranged only for the couple and their two witnesses and sometimes the bridesmaids.

At the end, as they already know what to expect, plenty of foods are served to everybody, food always cooked by family members. They usually don’t cut the cake till a few days after the wedding. But what really matters after all, they are happy with their tradition and their marriages last always forever.

Straight To The Heart

Wedding rings hold much symbolism. Not only do wedding rings represent commitment, honor and love, but also the never ending circle is a symbol of peace and perfection.

The hand that the wedding ring is placed on also has a significant meaning.

Dating back to ancient times, the third finger on the left hand was believed to be connected to a special vein, the vein of “love” that went directly to the heart. There is no scientific evidence thus far proving this theory, but this novel idea has lasted through centuries.

King Edward VI of England made a Law during his reign, that the third finger on the left hand would be the designated wedding ring finger. In 1549 this law was sealed when it became printed in the Book of Common Prayer. Even after King Edwards law many European brides still wear their wedding rings on their right hands. Tradition and customs all over the world will differ on which will be the proper placement of the wedding ring.

In the end it is not law or theories but personal beliefs that make the placement of the wedding ring significant and meaningful.